Sunday, January 8, 2012

Teach Me How To Love...

Sorry for the delay of yet another entry, but I'm only inspired to write once I have learned a valueable lesson in life/revelation. So here's one of my most recent life lesson! *smiles*

(PAWSE *in my Nicki Minaj voice* I love that song by Musiq Soulchild lol he knows he can make some great music about love!) 

One of the most powerful forces in the world is love. Love is something that all people want to experience, no matter what they say (especially the ones that try not to associate with love, they tend to be the ones that simply fear it, but I digress) However, I dare to believe that even though love is something that a lot of people seek and desire, most people don't know what love is. First of all, there are different types of love: Eros (passionate love, with sensual desire and longing), Philia (friendhsip; loyalty to friends, family, and community), Agape (means I love you; refers to a general affection rather than the Eros attraction), Storge (natural affection - felt by parents towards offspring), and Thelema (desire; desired to do something, to be occupied). As a Christian and believer of God, I believe that since God is love, God created us from love and we are created to experience love and to be loved. A part of me feels like Dr. Martin Luther King in the sense of "I Have A Dream". The world that I envision to live in is definitely different than the world of today. I hope that one  of these days, people will realize that there is more to love than Eros. Honestly, how would you feel if it wasn't your destiny to ever experience Eros? Does that mean that you are not destined to experience love? Is that ultimately THEE one love that all should try to acquire in this lifetime and feel less about themselves if one doesn't? If one experiences the other types of love to the fullest but lacks Eros, does that make life not worth living or not lived? I would argue a strong "hell naw!" We have been dangerously socialized to belive that experiencing Eros is the ultimate love to experience or rather that is the only one. People should appreciate Philia, Agape, Storge, and Thelema in addition to Eros. Many people experience these other forms of love and don't even know it and/or fully appreciate it. I am a firm believer in what I say when I say this: if you have a limited scope/outlook on life, you will miss out on a lot of experiences in life. This applies for love as well. I don't think people understand what love is. First of all, love doesn't deal with social confinements of this world. Love is not picky about male or female, black or white, "gay" or "straight" (I don't even bang with those last two terms but I digress). Love deals with the person. You cannot help who you fall in love with based solely on your desires (yes I'm referring to sexual desires). Once mankind understands what love is, then we as God's people can operate with the love of Christ. Because we do not truly know what love is, we can't fully access the power of love (which explains why concepts such as homophobia, sexism, racism, etc. exist because if we operated out of love, these concepts should not and would not be in existence). I really could go on a little longer about this topic of love. I will throw another concept that I have an outlook on in regards to love and then I'll be done with this topic for the moment (at least that's my assumption and intention).
 
The opposite of love is not hate, it's fear. Speaking from personal experience, I have secretly feared the concept of love myself. I have feared love (more specifically Eros) because of how strong its power is. Hate is more so learned behavior with ignorance being the sustainer of its existence. Hate is a mentality that is taught (love isn't taught behavior, it is natural), with fear being the foundation of it. One of the reasons why I am afraid of love is because of the vulnerability that comes with it. The concept of hate stems from fear, and hate is the mask that fear wears and as a consequence, hate is the defense mechanism against love, not the opposite. Hate is ignorance and one can unlearn to be fearful and to love; it is hard to do, but definitely not impossible. Love is something that should be fully explored. Be bold enough to experience love (and life) in totality. Broaden your horizons in order to potentially broaden your life. Ta Ta for now! TOODLES! XOXO

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