hold hands, slow-dance while the record spins" (words by my beautiful and sexy husband Ludacris). Well if you haven't figured out today's blog entry by now, let me be blunt in saying that it's about friends with benefits. My fellow blogger CrackCupCakes (crackcupcakes.blogspot.com check her out she's mad hilarious!!!) already tackled this topic, but I however decided to jump on this one because I can personally give a lil somethin somethin 'bout this one too. Enough wit the chit chat, let's get right to it.
The Good - One of the great benefits of having a friend with benefits is that you get the friend and the sex all wrapped in one. You can have what you want when you want it from that one person that you are hella cool with, but don't want a relationship with for whatever reason (long distance, fear, just got out of relationship, etc.). It is nice to have someone that you can chlll and kick it with and then that same person blow your back out making you have to learn how to walk all over again...(catch it..I need to come out of my thoughts). For some, the whole concept of "no strings attached" is more exciting than a relationship. With the friends with benefits package, you get everything you one for one low cut ghetto price! Okay that sounded kinda prostitutish so let me move on to the next one...
The Bad - So...sometimes this whole "friends with benefits" thing can work to a certain extent. Always pick your "buddy" wisely. One problem is that later on somebody can get caught up in their feelings. They may actually become a tidbit emotionally attached to the person and this can really screw shit up. I don't care what anybody says, sex involves more than the thrusting and pushing of a penis in a vagina, ass, mouth, etc. so believe it or not, eventually sex can complicate things. It really sucks when one person catches feelings, while the other one is still enjoying the booty and the buddy (or the dick and delight of friendship). Then the person all caught up in their feelings has a very difficult choice to make in regards to what to do now. Best bet in that case is to simply end that "benefits" part, but we all know that's easier said than done...esp if that person knows how to make ur eyes Chinese and havin u beggin them and whatnot...smh more power to you
The Ugly - Now this to me has to be THEE worst part of with when friends with benefits goes bad. The worst part to me is when the person you gave this privilege to also has another "friend with benefits" and you find out. Like damn somebody else is riding the same dick or fuckin the same pussy that you thought you dominated. Now, at least with me, I make sure the parties are separated...because I know how men are...I understand the opposite sex. However, with females that catch their "friend" being too friendly with others, females get caught all up in their emotions. One of my friends (that's a male) is confused about why some girl is mad at him. He's such a nigga and the only thing he understands about a female is the juicebox smh but as much as women don't want to admit, we are emotional creatures. I don't care what any woman says, at the end of it all they want love and affection, and after a while the whole "Friends with benefits" thing tends to feel like a relationship after a while. But that's on the end of when it becomes ugly for the female. Now, as for the males, I can only say what I observe and give my interpretation well simply because I don't have a dick and balls jangling between my legs. But from personal experience, it is definitely important to keep your men away from each other because men are kind of protective of their "territory". Now, I'm not saying that women are property, but if men take a liking to you enough for the friends with benefits. Now I can tell you from personal experience that this has to be the case. Long story short, my friend with benefit found out I was at another dude's house and he was acting like a little bitch begging and pleading for me to come and get him. Little did he know, the dude's house I was at is gay so since I'm slangin a dick he had absolutely nothin to worry about. But I digress.
So...what's my stance on friends with benefits? Theoretically it's a great concept...in the end it can fuck one over badly. But, I say enjoy every bit of the ride...life is full of ups and downs so that's just a facet of every part of life. In any and everything that you do, wrap it up. KEEP GETTIN IT IN!!! That is not the world's greatest advice smh.
Leave your comments about this topic. I think this is an interesting topic that many have come across either in thought or deed at some point in life.
Ta ta for now...TOODLES!!! XOXO
